Hello Beautiful,

I love you. I just want you to know how perfect you are for me, when it comes to a best friend. I don't know what I would do without you. You help me more than you could possibly know, just by being there. Even if we haven't talked that day, I know if I needed you, I could call you. I am so proud of what you have become. You are beautiful, smart, a completely inspiring mom, and you'll be the most amazing wife one day. Jake sure is blessed to have you. I know life gets hard on you sometimes, and you feel like everyone is working against you, but I want you to know that, despite our questionable past, i'll never work against you. Our friendship has been nothing less than a journey, with more milestones, and rewards, and falls, than any I have ever heard of. I am so happy that as we got older, we stopped trying to find reasons to not be friends, and we just let what is supposed to happen, happen. Which is be best friends, twins, soul sisters and sisters in Christ. We have been placed into this friendship together for the long run, and for a reason. Whether it's so I can hug you, and tell you how wonderful you are when you feel like you're not going to move further into your future. Or whether it is because so you can talk me down from my impatience, when it comes to wanting to make my family grow. We are the so different sometimes, but more often than not, we are so the same, it's almost scary. Whether it's learning raps so we can be awesome and on point, or laughing at something totally inappropriate, we are completely twinning, constantly. In the way God put Dyllon on the earth for me, I totally believe that he put YOU on the earth for me. I am so proud of you. You have grown so much since we've been friends, (which is weird, I know, given that you're older) But our relationship has matured so much. You know me inside and out, and I wouldn't have it any other way. 

I'm done ranting now. 

I love you, again.

Bye.

Marriage isn't for dummies.

So my best friend and I were talking about our days yesterday, like we tend to do if we haven't talked in a bit, and she told me, that a lady came through her line, and proceeded to tell her "Do not get married, you have to cook, and clean, and give them sex". This is a prime example of why people these days do not fail to surprise me, when it comes to how little they know about being married. I feel like I should be wrong about this, but I know i'm not, because sure i'm a newlywed, but that doesn't matter! Marriage isn't give and no receive in return. That's not how it works. If you see it that way, then you're doing it WRONG. I'm not judging anyone, but there is so much more to marriage than that. 

1. You don't HAVE to clean up after anyone but yourself. 

The point in "cleaning up after them" is, you're doing it because you care about them. I personally, clean up after my husband, because one, I can't stand the mess, it drives me nuts. And two, because he works, he takes care of our household, he is the head of the family, and it's the least I could do for him. I clean because I want to, not because I have to. I don't have to do anything. 

2. You HAVE to cook?

Really? That's funny, because, I rarely cook. My husband cooks. And very well I might add. But that's beside that point. Again, you don't HAVE to cook. You cook because you want to make sure you, your husband, and your kids have dinner. And if you don't want to cook, then ask your husband to cook. I don't think I have EVER met a man, who didn't jump at the chance of taking over the responsibility of a meal. My husband loves to cook. It keeps him calm and makes him happy. But maybe that's just me. I think I got my point across. 

3. You have to GIVE them sex. 

This one really works my nerves. Since when is sex a one sided act? I'm pretty sure, that if you don't want to have sex with your husband, then it isn't required to. But you should WANT TO. That's one of the fun parts of being married. (Yeah, I said it) Sex is a mutual act where you give all of yourself to the other person, where the two of you become one with each other, and express your love to each other because you love your spouse so much. GOODNESS. It's shameful that sex is seen by some women as just something that you do to shut your husband up. Where's the romance? The passion? I mean, I know once you have kids, and you get older, that you get more tired at night, and sometimes, you don't always feel like it, but I can promise you, as I get older, I won't let to fire burn out. It's not going to happen. I love my husband with every bit of myself and I will ALWAYS be attracted to him no matter. That's kind of what love is about. Never letting the fire burn out.

Want to know a piece of advice, that I see fixing this problem in people's marriage. 

Jesus.

I know a LOT of people will not agree with this, but this has really been the golden rule when it comes to my marriage. God being number one, at the top of the list, nestled right into the middle of our marriage. Has done wonders. Really. Anytime there is any kind of difference, I just remind myself that God brought me to my husband because he is my perfect mate. Dyllon Charles was made for me since day one. How special am I? To have a soul, specially crafted by the creator himself, made, to fit my soul perfectly like puzzle pieces that should have never been separated. One of the beautiful things in life that I will never really get over.  It's beautiful, and poetic, and I love it. If you keep this in your mind, and apply it to your marriage, it will do wonders, i'm telling you. I'm not trying to offend anyone, I'm more trying to help, so that people like that woman who told my best friend not to get married, will change their point of view. I don't want people like her who are sour to such a sacred thing, going around telling others that it's just all give and no get. That's not marriage. Marriage, is mutual and wonderful, IF you know what you're doing. Just take a little time and learn the tricks of the trade and you won't be let down. 

I guess i'm done ranting for the day, but I just had to get it out there.

Ephesians 5:1-2

'Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children   and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.'

Good afternoon! What an amazing example. It amazes me more and more every day how much easier it is to understand the word of God. I used to just move right past verses because I didn't get it, but now it's like, It's hard for me to find one that I don't understand. God truly has been moving in my life, and it's so easy to find His word in everything that I do. The hard part is searching for more, making it more of a challenge to find things. 
I truly am trying my best to follow His example in my life. Like my daddy, He only wants what's best for me, and He wants me to simply walk in love. That's what I am going to really try to do. I am so easily influenced by others opinions of me. People saying mean things about me, and all kinds of things like that, really change the act and feel. That is a work of process in itself. But with HIS help. I know anything can be accomplished.

Everyone have a safe, warm Tuesday! <3

1 Peter 1:13

'[Be Holy]  Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming.'

Don't be weighted down by the Monday's. Monday can be like any other day but you have to make it that way! I know, I know, you've been trying to rest this weekend, and then you ended up having to do a bunch of unscheduled things, or you were sick, or you just couldn't sleep at night. And NOW, you have to go BACK to work, and drag yourself through another day. I get it, I know. I used to let Monday get to me too. Especially a Monday like today, cold, windy, and just no fun. But thank the LORD we are alive and living a beautiful life. I have started using Monday's, as a day to be thankful, and to make a list of blessings, so I thought I'd share, and maybe Monday's won't be so hard on y'all anymore.

Happy Monday! January 6th, 2014. I am thankful for:
A warm home, and money to pay the electricity bill to keep it that way.
A car that runs (most of the time) and money to fix it when it doesn't.
My job, where i'm surrounded by such genuine people.
My husband's job, so that he can help take care of us.
Food in our cabinets, even though sometimes it isn't always what we want.
Hot tea this morning. 
The sunshine despite the cold.
God's grace.
My outrageous curls this morning. 
All of the jackets, sweaters, and scarves I have to keep me warm when I go outside.
My husband in general, being wonderful as he always is.
113 days of marriage. 
Forever to look forward to. 
People reading my blog.

So just be thankful today. Have a fully sober and alert mind and don't let your hopes fall for even a fraction of a second. Your monday will be a good day!

<3